Im Still here….
Apologies to all my true fans and supporters. I know you have been anxiously awaiting my next blurb. It really is quite fun to get a hard time from people for not writing on here. People genuinely get mad at me for not posting anything and I LOVE IT. HOWEVERRRRRR, I have recently taken a pretty big leap. I have fallen victim to the demands of the proverbial "MAN" and registered to take the CPA test to become a certified public accountant. Some of you reading this blog know what that means. Some of you do not. It basically is a society of people who study their asses off for extended periods of time to pass a test and get some letters at the end of their name. In my business CPA's are highly respected and are becoming increasingly more EXpected. So I have been putting off this test for 2 years, but recently decided to try and surprise some people (myself included) and attempt to pass the test. I am currently one week through studies and have my first test scheduled on October 21. So wish me luck, or wish me harm, either way, I will study and the results will be what the results will be…
IN ANY EVENT….like my man biggie once said, "I got a story to tell".
So I was recently chatting it up with an ex flame. This is one of the only ex flames I Still even talk to because this girl was actually really awesome, we just caught each other at a bad time when we both had different focuses (I.e. my fear of commitment clouded my normally clear vision). Nevertheless, we were chatting about her one year anniversary with another guy and it kind of made me think. DAMN. Time really does fly. Almost seems impossible that she has been seeing another guy for that long and so many things have changed and are different from the time we once explored dating. Now I am extremely happy for her and all that, it's great to see her on cloud 9. But we somehow got into the conversation about the moment when things would eventually go south…..
What I'm implying is that in every relationship, it seems like there comes this make or break point. Most times in my past it has been a little after a year of seeing someone, when things just get rocky. You are getting sick of them, you are fighting about nothing, you get stuck in the same old routine all the time and things never change. Well I warned her of this and she tried to laugh it off, but I could tell that she took a second to think about the proverbial "what if" moment. What if we do start fighting? Everything has been so perfect, I wont even know what to do. What if he stops wanting to be around me? What if football starts to take over? What if what if what if?? It got me to realize a few things….
1. Wondering about what if's will never get you anywhere. - While true, it doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t wonder. I mean its human nature to be curious. But you know the old expression about curiosity and the cat right? Well when it comes to relationships, curiosity can kill the 'cat'/relationship. I always wonder what's going to happen. I try to plan everything out and line up every step to get to where I see myself in my relationships. My recommendation, if you are going to play the what if game, play it WITH your partner. What ifs done solo can only end poorly. Spend time with your partner and instead of focusing on negative what ifs, focus on positive what ifs like "what if we are together a year from now, what would u want to be doing RIGHT NOW, or what if we were alone on an island for one hour only, what would we do? This could be a healthy way to spin an otherwise negative outcome
2. Understand the breaking point is coming. Don’t be stupid. No relationship is perfect. I was naïve enough to once think this was possible. It's really not. You need to work at things. Don’t be a lazy shit. If you want to get better at basketball, what do you do? Sit on your couch and expect to improve, or get off your ass and find a gym? It's simple, mainly because when you are with someone you love and care about, it should not be hard to work on things. You already love each other, you just have to challenge each other to stay creative in a fun way. Try something life altering like skydiving or bungee jumping. Create a memorable experience to bring yourselves closer and remember why you fell in love in the first place.
3. (in the famous words of Jimmy Valvano)…Don't ever give up! If you really love someone, and cant see yourself living without them, you simply can not quit. Don’t buy into the "I need time" "I need space" "now isn’t the right time" shit. Excuse my French, but F THAT! True love supersedes all bullshit. Don’t get caught up in the situation. I'm not saying disrespect your partners wishes by any means, but sometimes you have to know what is best for your relationship and time/space is not always the answer. You gotta claw with your fingernails. You gotta get dirty sometimes. Because if you have that moment when you wake up and think to yourself, "man, I wish I handled that differently and didn’t take this space because now I lost him/her" you will forever regret not following what your heart truly wants.
Think about it. Do as I say, not as I do!
In other news, another great weekend of football passed highlighted by the Eagles losing #7 and the game to the Falcons in ATL. Penn State snuk out a close win over the Owls of Temple in a game that was about as exciting as hanging with in-laws. Ill be back later this week to post about the upcoming football weekend, but bare with me over the course of the next few weeks as I need to prep for this god damn test (aka the devil)
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